BlogchatterA2Z Challenge – Theme Reveal

April marks the beginning of a new month, a new season, a new financial year and the start of summer holidays. It is the time of fresh mangoes, chilled milkshakes and a trip to our native homes. Children wait with much anticipation for this month, they have serious plans you see!

Well, for me, this year April is super special and interesting. It is going to be a new-action-packed month, with me hustling between my family commitments, Instagram, vacation to Dharmshala-Dalhousie and my 26 days of blogging! Yes, you heard it right! I will be writing 26 blog-posts in 30 days! It sounds challenging, hectic and time-consuming right? So, let me tell you one more thing – my posts will have an alphabetical order, i.e., starting from A till Z!

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Now, many of you would want to ask questions like:
1. Whom am I writing it for?
2. Why am I doing it?
3. What am I going to write?
4. What is the benefit of doing it?   and most importantly,
5. What are we supposed to do?

So let me explain! 

  1. I am participating in A TO Z CHALLENGE by BLOGCHATTER – a community that encompasses a lot of bloggers and social media enthusiasts. Every year, in the month of April, Blogchatter Community organises this unique challenge #blogchatterA2Z, which challenges and inspires the entire blogging community to pen down our thoughts as per the selected theme for a month. So beginning with alphabet A on April 1st, alphabet B on April 2nd and so on, I shall write one blog post a day from Monday till Saturday. Sundays are a break day(to plan and draft the posts). So, it is ONE THEME for 26 DAYS consisting of 26 ALPHABETSAnd I guess, this answers your first question.

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  2. Why am I doing it? – Well because I am a Stay-At-Home-Mom, have plenty of time to laze around and have a very silent & obedient toddler(JUST KIDDING – although the first reason is true!).I belonged to the media world prior to getting married(I still am from the bottom of my heart), so when motherhood gave me this opportunity to express my feelings in the social media world, I was glad to accept it. So, this year when I came to know #blogchatterA2Z, my first reaction was ‘WOW, I MUST PARTICIPATE”. But as the theme reveal dates came closer, I started to ponder and self-introspect, if I really wanted to do it, will I be able to finish it and what should be my final topic! Sleep, anyway a long-lost friend and Blogchatter would definitely consume my time(THAT MEANS SLEEP BECOMES A DISTANT RELATIVE now). Then, you might ask what was the motivating factor? 

    My reason is simple – No other challenge is as huge and difficult as MOTHERHOOD is and I emerge victorious each day. Every night, I have my peace of mind seeing my little one grow into a good tiny human. So, when I could face this, then why not a BLOG CHALLENGE. Afterall, I had chosen blogging as my alternative career. And now, I am all geared up to participate and successfully complete my #firstblogchatterchallenge.

  3.  What am I go to write? I started this blog to write about my journey as a first time mother, the nurture and nourishment required to raise a child, the experiences I gained as a mother, the food recipes etc. So deciding one specific topic from the motherhood journey was difficult, nevertheless – <Drum Rolls> <Curtain Raises> Ladies and Gentlemen, hold your seats, presenting you all the much awaited Theme Reveal for BlogchatterA2Z 2019(hehe, relax). Well, the theme for my posts for #blogchatterA2Z2019 is

    A TO Z of PARENTING ESSENTIALS

    So, I will be sharing a lot of personal experiences, stories, tips and the ways to nurture the little ones. You can also find many secret recipes , DIYs, etc to raise a healthy, intelligent and active child, that have been handy in raising Ayaansh. 

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  4. What is the benefit of doing it?Well, writing is a therapy for me. And writing about my parenting journey is the first reason I opened this blog site.  But, due to many a personal reasons, I couldn’t write for a long time after I created http://www.themummastartup.com plus I am a person who needs lots of silence when I need to write. So, not getting enough silence would always be my first excuse. So with the BLOGCHATTER CHALLENGE, I hope to write daily, shoving my excuses and problems aside and emerge victorious by the end of this Challenge. Also, writing daily would put me into a habit of dedicating a ME time. On, the professional front, I want to garner more readers for my blog, have a good reach, inspire moms and document my journey at one place so that it is easier for my readers to navigate through the pages.
  5. What are we expected to do?One of the reasons to start the blog was to make parenting easier for new moms. So my dear readers:– I expect you all to read my posts daily  or at least once in 2 days,

    – Share your lots of love in the form of  comments / feedback in the column provided below.

    – Please do share your experiences/tips or if you have any queries, just punch them in – I will be glad to answer.

    – Share my blog post in your social media circles and help me to spread a word about my blog and my parenting mantras

    – Subscribe to my blog page TheMummaStartup

    – Follow me at all social media websites Instagram Twitter Facebook 

And, that’s all for now. I hope that you will enjoy reading the roller-coaster ride of my parenting journey.

Also, do let me know in the comments of what you think about my theme for #blogchatterA2Z.

And do not forget to share this post! Afterall, gyaan baatne se badta hai! 🙂

Self Love: a guide to healthy life

“There’s nothing wrong with loving who you are”
She said, “‘Cause he made you perfect, babe”
“So hold your head up girl and you’ll go far,
Listen to me when I say”

I’m beautiful in my way
‘Cause God makes no mistakes
I’m on the right track, baby I was born this way!”

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The song Born This Way created an uproar worldwide as Lady Gaga showed her support for the LGBT Community. So what?? When I look back at the lyrics of the song, all it conveys is “LOVE THY SELF” and “BE PROUD OF WHO YOU ARE“. We as a nation are fearless when it comes to military affairs or politics and what not, but when it comes to love, WE SIMPLY HIDE & LIE LOW! It is even worse, when it comes to SELF LOVE.

We feel that if we care for ourselves or if we go by our set priorities, the world would hate us and pull ourselves steps away from our inner-sense. But why do we do it?

I had always been like Geet from Jab We Met, but after getting married to a big family, life had been set on a roller coaster ride. The simplicity in life turned into huge amount of complexities making me neglect many of my priorities. All along, my husband stood beside me rock solid. We were like the lead couples from Tumhari Sulu by then.

An year after the marriage I was living a life, yet something was incomplete.  And then I had Ayaansh! The most beautiful aspect of my life! A part of us hovering around our feet, giving us the most blissful feelings of life. I was contended outside, but yet I struggled to keep the ambiguity inside. It was at that point last year, when I heard this song and something struck me very deeply & then it finally dawned upon me, ‘I HAD STOPPED LOVING MYSELF!’ The wife and mother in me had taken prominence, and the bubbly-talkative-full-of-life-girl was lost. I had forgotten my passions, my friends, my preferences and my desires.

So, what did I do next? I grabbed a notepad, a pen and did something that made me flip around! Well, these things worked for me and if these work for you, I will be very much elated.

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STEP ONE: Write all the things that you never wanted to do or wish didn’t happen with you or all the things that makes you cringe. You can write few names, places or instances, whatever that comes to your mind. Please remember when you do this activity, let there be no one bothering you, put your phones in silent mode. You will be surprised to see a long list. Once complete, read it aloud. Repeat once more if required. NOW, TEAR IT INTO AS MANY AS PIECES YOU WANT. FLUSH IT OR THROW IT. NEVER LOOK BACK!

STEP TWO: Take a pretty book, fancy colored pens. Write about all the things/people/places you love. Jot down all the movies you want to see, the music you want to listen, the food you love to eat, the places you want to go. READ IT ALOUD AGAIN! REPEAT IF NEEDED. You feel alive after doing it.

STEP THREE: I discussed all my desires and ambitions from STEP 2 with my husband, we further made our year goals. We plan our week, our days ahead and ensure our schedules are set. I had asked my husband to do the above steps so that we both can be on the same page and since we had many a things different in our list, we make sure to give each other that ME TIME to fulfil the desires, whatsoever by taking turns in looking after the little one.

STEP FOUR: When things got sorted out between us, the battle was half won. But to conquer the world I had to say NO, to many people around me. It was now very imperative that I stood to my ground and set my preferences. The family and the world were seeing a revolutionary version of me. Many times at this stage, we were mocked, pushed and shoved and the real battle had begun and I am fortunate to have my hubby as the backbone of my life.

STEP FIVE: At this point, my happiness and peace was restored and I ensured that I have my ME TIME every day. My #metime includes reading books, listening to my choice of music, watching TED Videos or commercials, watching new recipes, doing my DIY stuff.
So, it’s very important to do the things we love on a daily basis. The ME TIME can be 5 minutes to an hour or 2(you are lucky, if you get more!).  UTILISE IT EFFECTIVELY!

STEP SIX: GO OUT and MEET NEW PEOPLE. Network with like-minded individuals. Go on a shopping-spree. Catch-up with old buddies, share those nostalgic memories. Call your friends often. Be in touch.


STEP SEVEN: EAT, PRAY AND LOVE your body!
Have your morning cup of coffee/tea/breakfast in a non-frenzy manner. Relish it, savor your food. You are eating for maintaining a healthy body. A healthy body gives you healthy mind and in turn makes you positive. SO EAT, DON’T SACRIFICE THAT ONE PIECE OF APPLE FOR YOUR LOVED ONES. YOU ARE YOUR FIRST LOVE!


PRAY:
Be thankful for all the good things and people in your life. Be humble to all, Thank the Almighty. If things are going wrong, still pray! Pray to HIM to make things right. Ask for help if required. Show your gratitude, reciprocate the love.

AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, LOVE YOUR BODY! You may be slim or chubby,doesn’t matter – JUST STAY FIT! Exercise and Meditate. Get the stamina up. Go for a trek, run a marathon and eat a cookie! JUST KEEP LOVING YOURSELF!

Because:

Don’t be a drag, just be a queen
Whether you’re broke or evergreen
You’re black, white, beige, cholo descent
You’re Lebanese, you’re Orient
Whether life’s disabilities
Left you outcast, bullied, or teased
Rejoice and love yourself today
‘Cause baby you were born this way

WISH YOU ALL A VERY HAPPY INTERNATIONAL WOMEN’S DAY 2019!

This post is a part of #UnapologeticGirlz Blogathon @mylittlemuffin hosted by, @mommyvoyage and @themomsagas, sponsored by @kaurageousyou

It brings me immense pleasure to share that I, along with 30 other bloggers are celebrating Women’s Day with a twist.

I thank another awesome mom Sneha Jubin who blogs at www.itsatwinningstory.wordpress.com for introducing me. Do check her posts.

I would also take the opportunity to introduce Aditi Anand who blogs at http://www.teatimetalkies.com . Do check her blog to take a look at her take on Self Love

Thanks to all three creative organizers of this Blogathon who came up with such innovative prompts.

The dynamics of being a Stay At Home Mumma

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We all come in different sizes, from different races and different choices! Yet we are all the same! Yes, we are the MOTHERS!!

We are the Mothers of Today’s World! We are Stay at home moms, we work – out of home/from home or we are single moms!

But what matters is, ‘WE ARE CONFIDENT MOMS!’

I distinctly remember the day of my first sonography, when I heard the soft thuds of my little one’s heart and it was at that very moment, I decided I would be a Stay-At-Home-Mom. It came as a shock to many who knew me, who knew I was so passionate at work. My parents and my in-laws were concerned about the choice I had made. Few of them wanted to know the real reasons.
But my real reason was to rejoice, cherish and celebrate the blessings of motherhood and spend as much time with my little one. My darling husband stood beside me rock solid.
And trust me, THIS WAS THE BEST DECISION I MADE IN MY LIFE! Now, let me tell you all, the perks of being a SAHM:

  1. I get to spend the maximum time with my child. Three years have passed by, there have been moments when I was depressed or furious, but that naughty smile of Ayaansh still makes my day. We play, read books, go shopping, do the crazy dance, sing like there is no tomorrow, cuddle and kiss every now and then, and still feel the day is not enough. I will be honest I feel a little jealous too, when there is extra excitement the moment he sees his father coming after work. But, this is happiness too!!
  2. My hands are full: I still am busy with my household chores and there is a lot happening in my brain too! Many people around us have a myth that a housewife has nothing to think about. But we do have. I like to plan my days right from clothes to cooking, the books I want to read, and the activities for Ayaansh, etc. I love arranging surprises for my loved ones and their reactions are my boosters for life.
  3. Pursuing Passions: Reading books and owning a library has been a dream from childhood and being at home gives me a lot of time to read a vast range of books. Also, cooking has been a therapeutic activity and have explored & learned various cooking styles like One pot One shot method among others. I learnt to make chocolates from the scratch, bake cakes & cookies, savouries and sweets, churn the icecreams, etc. Painting and gardening is yet another activity that I enjoy and now with the little one, it is a daily delight! We plant the seeds, watch it grow, enjoy the little pleasures together.
  4. Getting married to a joint family helped me to learn the home management skills, and now that we are in a nuclear setup, it has been easy for me to implement those. So, I pay the bills, keep my house clean and do my day-to-day activities with ease. This has happened only because I am SAHM. Yes, I am dependent on my husband for finances, but I manage my home as per my convenience and set of rules.
  5. I work! The tiny squares in Instagram have kept me busy and now with this blog, I intend to keep myself busier than usual. Afterall, when the little one grows and starts schooling, I got to utilize my time and, who doesn’t enjoy earning the extra pennies! Moreover, I loved working for brands – planning their campaigns and commercials, so why not brand myself, right?

There are varied reasons for a women to choose her path of motherhood. Few of us love to stay back at home, few of us manage both the aspects and few us love their work and hire a help.

So what? We all are mothers – Women who have preferences in life!

Women who like to follow their heart!

Women who believe that ‘A Happy Mother Raises A Happy Kid’

And a women who belives:

“You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You’re on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who’ll decide where to go…”


Yes, Dr. Seuss(Oh,The Places You’ll Go!) we get to decide where we want to go!

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This Post is a part of the #MomsSpeakUp Blog Train Hosted by Prisha of Mummasaurus and Nayantara of MommyingBabyT.
I would like to thank Kadambari Mehta for introducing me. Read their take on the Prompt here (https://babybookbabbles.com/5-books-that-help-me-raise-a-mighty-girl-momsspeakup/).
I would like to Introduce Namrata Kalia. I’m sure you will enjoy reading her take on the prompt. Visit her blog here https://momzandmore.com/yes-i-am-a-stay-at-home-mom/