Happiness Jar For You And Your Family!

Hi People,

Its been a fortnight since the New year and I hope it has brought all of us, lots of love, luck, peace and happiness!

Last month my bundle of joy arrived making us all feel blessed and happy. His innocent smile and coos made our hearts fill with joy and happiness. As a second time mom, I realized how joyful it is to see the two wonderful humans you created, bond every minute, be it when the firstborn cares or plays or helps with the needs of the baby.

Many of you know, Ayaansh wanted a younger sister and had been constantly saying this throughout my pregnancy. The D-day arrived on December 1st, 2020 and as the doctor announced “It’s a Boy!”, Ayaansh was super elated. When asked by the doctor if he wanted a brother or a sister, Ayaansh simply said, “I wanted a sister. But I am still very happy now as I have a baby brother! My brother for life!”

Cutting to the present, many times I can see Ayaansh patiently waiting for me to finish feeding or tending to the baby. While his patience surprises me, my heart also aches with the divided attention or time given for Ayaansh. Only recently, he mentioned that while he loves his brother, he is a tad sad that he doesn’t get to spend much time with me or sleep with me on the bed. As a mom, it broke my heart and I had an open conversation with my son. It was then, that we came up with Happiness Jar as a measure to notice and appreciate all those happy moments we have through the day and read it at the end of each month.

So What Is Happiness Jar?

Happiness Jar is a project conceptualized by Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love – a very popular novel turned Hollywood movie. It was an instant hit worldwide and people started using Happiness Jar to remind themselves of all the little and big joys or the nice things that happened over the year.

Our HAPPINESS JAR

In our daily lives, it is from the smallest incidents or acts that we derive pleasures or discomforts. It is the little things that matter to make our lives enjoyable or miserable. Although we had prepared Ayaansh for all the possible situations or changes post the baby’s arrival, it was only after our conversation, I realized Ayaansh missed all those small moments I had spent with him over the years. Things like making him the smiley-faced pancake, cutting his veggies, or helping him choose his clothes, brushing his hair, laughing over his funny faces or accents, etc. made his day as well as mine.

The five years spent with Ayaansh had indeed passed away too quickly and all those first time- joyous moments were now memories.

So our happiness jar is not just a project or a simple activity to fill the vacuum, but a visual daily reminder for the family to consciously focus on the positives, appreciate the efforts and be thankful for all the good things in our life. It is a continuous effort to inculcate gratitude as a habit in each one of us especially when the days will be tough. This happiness jar is also to assess and evaluate the quality time or things we do for each other.

Our happiness can be derived from a cup of coffee made by hubby, a new book, holding hands, watching the sunset, impromptu games, singing each other’s favorite song, a tasty meal, little one’s smile, or a milestone hit, a nap in the afternoon, playing in the garden or any tiny gesture that fills our heart and brings a smile to our lips. We all have different colors of paper chits in which we write our ‘Happy Moments’ and put it into our collective jar. I decided that we would be reading it at the end of every month or at our most sad time. I can’t imagine how nostalgic and joyful it would be to re-live those happy moments together as a family.

Benefits of Happiness Jar

Whether you make your jar as individual or as a family, the benefits of happiness jars on children and adults are:

  1. It creates a family ritual or inculcates a good habit as we record our happy memories daily.
  2. Creates a strong bond between people or parent-children or siblings.
  3. Teaches children to understand other’s perspectives and empathize with others.
  4. Creates calm attitude, making kids a good leader and decision maker in the future.
  5. It helps children to focus on the positives or goodness in everyone, enabling parents to raise them as loving and caring individuals.
  6. Teaches children and adults alike to respect and appreciate all the tiniest things in life.
  7. Children/Adults who make Happiness Jars tend to be happy and spread the cheer around instead of being anxious and worried, thereby reducing stress, depression and other psychological problems.
  8. The sooner we teach our kids to document all the happy moments in the jar, the quicker we teach them to practice gratitude.
  9. When happiness jar is followed by Journal Writing, it can help children to express themselves emotionally.
  10. Maintaining the Happiness Jar and daily Journal also fosters creativity in children and helps them to practice ‘ME TIME” from the very beginning.

Things we write or put in our jar

We have decided that we will not only write our happy memories but also put a souvenir or things that remind us of happy things. Below are the few things to write or put in a Happiness Jar

  • The happiest moment that day (more the merrier!)
  • Things you are grateful for or people you are grateful to (it can be your maid who has done a good job in cleaning your house, your doctor who spoke kindly to you or your friends/family who appreciated you, etc.)
  • We have decided that we will add our travel tickets, dinner bills from our favorite restaurants or the pictures you clicked, lucky coins, or a note from a loved one. Just remember, it’s your jar and your happiness.
  • Greeting Cards or Notes from your kids about their happiest moments, their paintings, etc.
  • You can add, customize your Happiness Jar as you want it to be. Remember, if the jar fills up soon, you are indeed very lucky and happy. Fetch another jar and continue the happiness journey.
  • You can create separate Happiness Jars for each family member or make a collective Happiness Jar for the family like me. Remember, there are no rules here except creating or noticing the happy things/ incidents through the day!

When Do we open it ?

As it is a collective jar, we have decided to open it at the end of the month or two, or during our dejected moments to cheer us up. You can open your Happiness Jar at the end of the year or during your low point in life. There are no hard rules here. Just concentrate on the positive, fill the jar and enjoy your life.

How Do You Make it?

Well, to make the Happiness Jar all you need is a Jar or a container or even the tissue box. You don’t even have to buy a jar, use the existing one like I did. Grab some colorful scraps of paper in any shapes or sizes to write your happy moments. A marker or pen, some paints if you would like to doodle or decorate the jar. A nice ribbon to tie at the neck of the bottle to make it elegant. That’s it! You are all set to DIY and create YOUR HAPPINESS JAR!

In my next post, let me share the detailed step-by-step pictures to make the Happiness Jar! Till then, keep reading and stay happy. Let me know in the comments, if you have any such hacks to keep your life simple and happy. I am all ears to it!

Picture Courtesy : Canva App

Once again, Happy 2021 and I wish each once of you with lots of happiness, health, wealth, peace and travel!

Regards,

Amritha Srinath

This blog post is part of the blog challenge ‘Blogaberry Dazzle’ hosted by Cindy D’Silva and Noor Anand Chawla, and happily SPONSORED BY RRE Studios and SHOWCASE Events.

51 thoughts

  1. First of all, congratulations on your second bundle of joy. Firstborns are given exclusive time and when the second arrives there will be some jealousy. It is quite normal. This Happiness jar idea is awesome. I have done it a few times but just for myself. All the best with your new-mom journey. I really wonder how you find time to blog with a new-born and a kid to handle. Kudos to you.

  2. First of all congratulations for your new addition. First born feels little different with the sibling’s arrival. They are happy and they are unsure if mommy will be there for me round the clock or not.

  3. First many congratulations dear on being a second time mommy. lots of love from my side to little one. and I could understand your emotions so well regarding spending time with your elder one. we moms gone through with same emotions when we have to divide our attention for our elder one but with time we all get adjusted with new things and new routine. happiness jar idea is really great and I had done this my girls too.

  4. Oh wow. I am awestruck by the idea. Happiness jar surely makes its way to my family corner. I am thankful to you for this idea. I saw this post at the toughest phase in my life. You have no idea what a happiness you gave me. I feel like yes there is a chance for things to improve.

  5. The idea of happiness jar is indeed a novel thought. It helps in changing the perspective of the families especially kids. Reading the happy moments together can create unity in families. Thanks for sharing this thought

  6. I am intrigued to know the results of the happiness jar. Looking forward to your next post. I am surely making this happiness jar. Who doesn’t want to be happy?

  7. Many Congratulations, Amritha, for the new addition to the family. I know both parenting as a mother of firstborn and the second born mother come with different challenges. I like the idea of the happiness jar. I have recently started this activity at my home too. Yeah! , it works as a major stress buster wrapped in great fun.

  8. Congratulations on your second baby, not a mom plus I have no sibling but yeah there is a bit of jealousy but again Moms are superhumans… Plus I loved your idea of a happiness jar, I am totally making it!

  9. This is a fantastic idea. We tried a gratitude jar and it worked out very well! Happy to try out this idea too.

  10. Ooo I love the idea of opening the jar on a day you’re feeling low. Maybe a happy moment memory can be the push one needs on that day.

  11. First off, congratulations on the new addition to your family. A happiness jar is such a lovely concept. I maintain a gratitude journal and am surely going to try out the jar version too.

  12. Congratulations on being a mom all over again! You have so much to look forward to that your jar will be overflowing, I’m sure. I loved this concept as it is a great way to count our blessings during current times.

  13. Congratulations for being a mother again. Happiness jar is an awesome idea to know how blessed you are. I totally love this idea and surely will try this with my family. I am sure it is going to be lot of fun. looking forward to your next post.

  14. Congratulations on your second baby 🙂 Happiness Jar is indeed an awesome idea, you have mentioned all the reasons why one should have a happiness jar. Thanks a lot and blessings to the newborn!

  15. First of all, Congratulations to you for the new addition to the family. I have heard about the happiness jar and I found the concept and the thought behind it quite interesting. After reading your reasons I too want to try it out with my family.

  16. Congratulations to you for the second one.. And it’s quite normal in kids with the 1st one to get jealous with second one… But yes as parent we have to handle the situation smartly… It was a good read and worth sharing…

  17. Congratulations on your little bundle of joy! Happiness jars are a fun idea! In a similar vein I had written about a gratitude jar in one of my blog posts. And these are a perfect thing to open and go through on days when we may be feeling unhappy.

  18. That is such a sweet ritual to follow. Even I experienced that inspite effort with my girl after my son was born, it was the little things taht she missed the most and I knew I had to step up my game as a mother. Will try to include the happiness jar in our life as well…

  19. Thats a lovely idea. I love little habits that have the. Potential to turn into a ritual and this one is definitely one of those. Looking forward to trying this with my family.

  20. Congratulations Amritha ! Siblings do have a special bond and the initial adjustment can take time and you already have a solution to it Happiness jar. I wish you fill up your jars soon and keep adding many of them.

  21. I follow Elizabeth Gilbert on FB and I loved the idea of happiness jar when she had started it and had even spoken to my husband to start painting one as a couple to count out happy moments. It’s a wonderful way to count our blessing and feel grateful for what we have in life.

  22. Congratulations buddy on the new addition in the family. Loved this idea of happiness Jar. I have read about it before too. It ‘s a wonderful way to stay grounded, happy and content.

  23. Congratulations Amritha for your second bundle of joy. I can relate how your elder one is feeling right now as my elder daughter asked same questions when my second one born. I never tried happiness jar thing I will try this in my home. Thanks for sharing benefits and tips.

  24. Congrats on becoming a mother again. And I love this idea of a Happiness Jar. We must keep the good times alive. And this is the best way to do this–store the good times to open in quiet times.

  25. We have been following a ritual of having a gratitude Jar. This is something that we have been doing since over 2 years now. I love reading these notes after the jar is full.

  26. Congratulations for the new bundle of joy in life. I really love the idea of thus happiness jar, will try with my kids and see what we get to read after it is full!!

  27. Lovely idea to create a feel good factor. Sometime we forget the little things that brought us joy. This is a nice reminder that it doesnt take much for happiness and it is the little every day things that make us feed loved. And congratulations on your 2nd baby!!

  28. Congratulations Amrita. I’m sailing in the same boat as you. As days pass I’m trying to spend a lot of time with my daughter when my son sleeps or when he’s taken care of by grandparents. This concept is so full of cheer and I might have to start following this as well

  29. Congratulations on your 2nd bundle of joy. Don’t we need such a wonderful and positive concept in our lives! I will try with my little one too.

  30. First of all, congratulations on your second baby. Your life story has made me nostalgic. The same happened with my elder son. Though he would love his brother, still was missing the moments he did spend with me. The happiness jar is really a nice way to cherish the happy moments. Thanks for sharing.

  31. Hey Many congratulations to you dear for your second baby. I feel this idea of Happiness Jar is really worth practicing as it is said count your blessings which we forget

  32. I am mesmerized after rwadjng it. I will sure create a Happiness Jar for my family. I am totally agree that reading the chits of happiness will make anyone happy and nostalgic. It will boost my happy harmones in body.

  33. Happiness Jar is an interesting idea and it reminds us all the happy moments for us. All the best and best wishes for your second child. Congratulations on the second bundle of joy

  34. Oh wow !! I I dint knew that we can do this activity on the monthly basis too. I have tried this activity on the yearly basis.
    I would love to try and keep family goals and wishes on the monthly opening ceremony. Thanks for the information
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  35. Congratulations! And this is one of teh best ideas!!! Absloutely loved it. I do have a book of memories where I stick in/staple tickets of movies, entry tickets to an exhibition or just wrapping paper bits to remember my happy days. Will be coming back and making notes of the happy jar! In fact just a couple of days back, my son arranging his section gave me a few of his speechs at school hardcopies and said, this is for our Memoir book.
    Wow! Great happy read post

  36. Absolutely brilliant! I am so loving this idea of Happiness Jar. I myself have a gratitude jar so this is perfect idea according to me. Kids see and do what we do. I love watching my son following us and adding things to the gratitude Jar. Will soon make this for him

  37. The Happiness Jar is indeed a unique and innovative concept. It is really a nice way to strengthen family bonds and pursue happiness together, through sharing moments.

  38. I loved this idea, as I moved ahead reading the post it only confirmed that I should also start this practice. I totally loved this idea.

  39. Congratulations dear. A couple of months after delivery I was fighting with postpartum but here u are writing such a positive post. Kudos to your spirit. ☺

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